J's fundraiser in honor of Rhoda Dellecave
$4,650.00 raised
$3,000.00 goal
A MESSAGE FROM J's fundraiser in honor of Rhoda Dellecave
On November 6, 2022, I am running the NYC marathon in honor of my mother Rhoda Dellecave, who passed away after a brief and aggressive battle with cancer in 2020. My mother was the swimming leg of a triathlon when she was 50--a milestone that kept her spirits up in her last days--and as I am nearing the age of 50, this race and this year called to me.

A marathon has been on my bucket list since I ran cross-country as a young teenager. Returning to running in my thirties helped my cope with grown-up stress as my life path blossomed. Training for this marathon has allowed me to continue processing my grief over my mother's sudden passing.

I chose to run in support of Red Door Community (formerly called Gilda's Club) because I received vital grief support from this organization during the height of the pandemic. Red Door Community's FREE online grief groups were a beacon of light in my healing process.

Red Door Community serves EVERYONE and ANYONE impacted by cancer: newly diagnosed, patients in treatment, post-treatment, and their families as well as the bereft. Please join me in supporting Red Door Community. Every gift counts and your support makes a difference. Thank you for your consideration of this special community. 

About the photos: 

Dragonflies--my mother said she would visit from the beyond in the form of a dragonfly. As one might imagine I have encountered dragonflies in the most unusual places

Me and Ziggy on the way to Fire Island

Dad+me+Mom enjoying Red Hook Brooklyn in 2019

Me at Summer Streets in Manhattan during my first ever 
9-mile run

Dragonfly Photo by Clément Falize on Unsplash
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  • James Lubanovich made a $500.00 donation
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  • Jan and David made a $100.00 donation

    Hope you have an awesome experience!

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  • Diane and Carmen made a $50.00 donation

    Go J! Rhoda will forever be in our hearts💙💙

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  • James Lubanovich made a $500.00 donation

    final charge 11/3

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  • In memory of Rhoda Dellecave and Frederick Weston made a $525.00 donation

    Go JBA Go!

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  • Zave Martohardjono made a $50.00 donation

    wishing you an absolutely incredible run <3

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  • Michelle Summers made a $25.00 donation
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  • Hendrik Gerrits made a $100.00 donation

    This is such an awesome way to honor your mom. I hope you have a wonderful experience running the marathon. Good luck! Hendrik and Lumin

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  • Alex Cafarelli made a $13.00 donation
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  • Ksenia M. Soboleva made a $25.00 donation
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  • LissaIvy Tiegel made a $50.00 donation

    50 for the 50 wonderful years the planet has been graced by your beautiful magical presence!!! <3

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  • Jack Callahan made a $100.00 donation

    Our dear close and dear friend Rhoda is part of our conversations daily. There were so many things that the Dellecave’s and Callahan’s did together. We were blessed to have such a wonderful person been part of our lives. Always missed, never forgotten!!!

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  • Ally Wray-Kirk made a $100.00 donation

    I know your Mom would be incredibly proud of you, Dr. J!!! Now go run your heart out, and come on back to your home here in the desert...We miss you!

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  • Rachel Carrico made a $50.00 donation

    go J!!!! thinking back to those days of jogging in Riverside and wow you are inspiring! rooting for you!

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  • Mario LaMothe made a $25.00 donation
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  • Sarah Meckler made a $100.00 donation

    Good luck j! I’ll be rooting for you! (Hopefully in person if I can wrangle Micah)

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  • Wendy Vogel made a $20.00 donation
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  • Zafira Vrba Woodski made a $20.00 donation

    All my love to you dearest one!

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  • Julie Mayo made a $40.00 donation

    Amazing! Sending you runner marathon mojo and hugs! from Julie + Mark

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  • In memory of Rhoda Dellecave made a $207.00 donation

    In honor of Rhoda. A powerful force in the lives of me and my children.

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  • Debbie Stanley made a $50.00 donation

    What an awesome way to honor your mom and to celebrate a milestone birthday! This is also a great organization to fundraiser for. I’m excited that we are going to be there to cheer you on! Keep on keeping on!

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  • Leah DeVun made a $50.00 donation
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  • Anonymous made a $5.00 donation
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  • Vanessa Dellecave made a $117.00 donation

    j it’s so amazing that you you are doing this in honor of Mom! I’m so proud of you, I’m sure you will have a dragonfly flying over your shoulder. Mom would just think this is absolutely amazing! Love you!!! Vanessa

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  • In memory of Joni Sinfelt made a $100.00 donation
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  • Adriene Jenik made a $25.00 donation

    You go girl!!!

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  • In memory of rhoda dellecave made a $25.00 donation

    J Dellacave, what a wonderful tribute to your special and beautiful mother! I miss her and our shopping trips with Vaness and Katie. much love and good luck to you!!!

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  • Sara Jimenez made a $25.00 donation
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  • with love from your lite brite family and Ziji xox made a $250.00 donation
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  • Adam Johnson made a $117.00 donation

    We continue to cherish the time we had with you and you continue to live through us Rhoda. — Adam

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  • Anonymous made a $50.00 donation

    WOW J this is such a beautiful thing you are doing to honor your mother. I'm so impressed and proud of you! XO Julia

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  • Emilie Robertson made a $50.00 donation
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  • Hannah Schwadron made a $36.00 donation

    how beautiful this morning to read this message from you and imagine you running red in honor of your swimmer mother. i didn’t know that she transitioned or that you have been grieving but I feel very lucky to be let in on this big phase of your life and her memory. I’m wishing you a grounding, sweaty, smiling, life affirming marathon and know that I’m thinking of you and sending 36 / “double life” (the Jewish sacred donation number I learned from my mom)

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  • In memory of Aunty Jacqueline Woodruffe made a $50.00 donation

    J!! Thank you for doing this. Love and Light my dear friend. (A.K. Jones)

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  • In memory of Rhoda made a $100.00 donation

    What a great way to honor her memory. I had no idea she had participated in a triathlon. She was such an amazing human being and I miss her every day.

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